Competition among siblings is integral to most families. Our natural instinct is to survive and thrive. Many twin pairs, however, have a different experience with sibling rivalry and competitiveness because of their intimate relationship. While twins fight just as much—or possibly more—than nontwin siblings, their feelings about surpassing or outdoing their twin can be conflicting and confusing. More often than not, identical twins that compete in the same sport are wholly supportive of and noncompetitive with their sibling. Often they […]

Most of us are currently searching for positive aspects of social isolation. If one or both parents are working from home, they may have unexpected opportunities to spend individual time with each twin. Of course, each household has different needs. Nonetheless, let’s brainstorm some creative possibilities that might suit your family: Organize separate times to read/dance/cook/draw with each twin. Bathe the twins separately. Change up the bedtime routine by having each parent handle one twin. Plan separate walks with each […]

I want to share my thoughts in this blog post about the new normal imposed on us by the coronavirus. Through conversations with my patients, I have come to appreciate how prior experience in managing emotional and physical vulnerabilities equipped some individuals to adapt better to self-isolation. For example, a young woman who battled an aggressive cancer shared that she has already experienced the conditions the rest of us are grappling with. She faced an unpredictable disease; she lived through […]

I recently had a conversation with a young woman in her midthirties about her fraternal twin brother. She and her brother got along well all their lives. They went to separate colleges and lived and worked in different cities until six months ago. Prior to her brother moving to the same city, they spent time with one another on family vacations and visited one another perhaps once or twice a year. Now that her brother lives close by, she feels […]