Comparisons and competition exist in most sibling relationships; nonetheless, for obvious reasons the emotional stakes are higher for twins. In fact, some twin pairs have a very hard time learning to handle competition as they grow up. Since they may not acknowledge or work through this developmental milestone until much later in their lives, the threat of twin estrangement looms large. Naturally, different-age siblings encounter similar difficulties. Yet due to unfortunate misperceptions, twins are not supposed to have rivalrous feelings […]

Recognizing my passionate obsession with twin relationships, many people have asked me to share my thoughts about the twin dynamics highlighted in the Netflix series Echoes. While I found the story line confusing and fabricated, I thoroughly enjoyed Michelle Monaghan’s intriguing performance as both Leni and Gina as well as a glimpse into a disturbing pathological twin relationship. A bit of background for those who may have not watched the program (warning: spoilers ahead). Leni and Gina are identical twins […]

If your twin has been the sole person meeting your emotional needs for most of your life, it can be challenging to recognize how nontwins might respond differently. Inseparable twin pairs develop an unarticulated rhythm that enables them to intuit what the other is thinking and react accordingly. For instance, if one twin is trying to get the other to change his plans to be with his brother, the twin needs little convincing to do so. Both are programmed to […]

Robert and Rupert were screaming at each other at the top of their lungs, swearing and yelling over each other. I tried to interrupt their tirades; however, both were so lost in their rage and eruptions that neither one heard me or cared to hear me. Each of these thirty-eight-year-old identical twin men knows exactly how to trigger the other. They have engaged on and off for the last two decades in this destructive interaction, which routinely follows a period […]

Joe (not his real name) walked sheepishly into my office and sat on the sofa. He looked down at the floor and mumbled that he was a bit nervous because he needed to tell me what had happened since our meeting two weeks ago. In our last session, he explained why he decided to end his present romantic entanglement. He realized he did not trust his girlfriend’s level of commitment or honesty. Today, however, he told me that he had […]